Do You Know When It's Over

Here are 5 tell-tale signs that it’s over and it’s time to pull the pin:

1) You cheat on them It’s a bad sign if you’re in a relationship and you’re actively trying to date other people! It’s even worse if you’ve already started to sleep with other people! Don’t kid yourself. You shouldn’t be joining online dating sites, explicitly flirting with strangers at bars, taking the phone numbers of potential love interests, going out on secret dates or sleeping around. You’re in an exclusive commitment with someone else! If you think you still need to do this, then it’s a sign that it’s time to move on.

2) You’re not in love How you feel about your partner is a key indicator of the strength of your relationship. If you can’t answer the simple question “Are you in love with them?” with a clear “yes” then you need to be worried. Particularly after only 6 months when you should be in the honeymoon phase and can’t get enough of them. Check in with your feelings. If there’s nothing there then get out.

3) You don’t want to spend time with them One of the cornerstones of a strong relationship is that you spend lots of quality time together. If you’re constantly dreading the idea of having to be with your partner for the week-end or contacting them throughout the day then you’ve got a problem. If you would prefer to catch-up with your mates, spend time in groups rather than just the two of you, and rush home rather than stay over, then maybe this person isn’t for you.

4) You break promises If you’re not able to follow through with your daily promises then your relationship is in trouble. Basically this means you don’t walk the walk. You don’t ring them back, text them, run on time, or return their emails. You forget special occasions and events, you don’t cook or clean, and you work late rather than going out on a date with them. Essentially, you consistently let them down and make them feel like they’re not a priority in your life. If you’re guilty of this, it’s time to get honest with yourself and move on.

5) You put them down The way in which you talk to your partner is going to tell you a lot about the future of the relationship. If you have a tendency to put them down and criticize them, dismiss their comments and constantly tell them they’re not good enough then it’s a problem. If you’re guilty of tearing down your partner in front of others, being sarcastic, yelling at them and treating them like an inferior then you may as well spare them the pain and break it off now. It’s demoralising and soul destroying for them to hear your cruel comments, and you’re better off finding someone who you can celebrate rather than crucify.